Response to - Should I Go To College or Not?

Here’s the question I received: I’m a senior and my parents want me to go to college after I graduate. I don’t much like school and we don’t have a lot of money. Don’t you think I should get a job not go to college?

Answer:  Your parents are trying to lead you in the right direction.  Obviously they realize how difficult it is to get ahead and be able to reach your financial and other goals in life without a college education today.  Don’t get me wrong, there are lots of people out there earning good salaries and having rewarding lives that don’t have a college education, and there are lots of people out there that have a college education but aren’t putting it to good use.  There are laborers, sales people, skilled craft workers, service workers, and many others who are doing just fine without a college education.

So, it really boils down to what you want out of life, and that’s a question that only you can answer.  If your family already is strapped for money then maybe you can eventually be the one to help with those circumstances if you can get a college education, receive a good job as a result and gain the financial rewards.  On the other hand as I said there are plenty of good jobs out there that don’t require college, or at least not a college degree.

Regarding not liking school, I would venture to say that a big percentage of the people that graduate from college didn’t actually “like” the experience, but they realized it was a means to an end.  In other words, they looked around at the people in the workforce with the highest paying jobs and not all of them, but most of them have a college education and many of them have advanced degrees such as a master’s degree.  So the means was a college degree and the end was a good paying job to support all of their needs and/or wants

Two additional considerations are 1) If you do go to college, depending on what college you go to and/or how much support your parents can give you, you may have to also get a job to help work your way through.  Our most rewarding accomplishments are the ones we also fund.  2) If you don’t do college while you are young and still have enough flexibility in your life, you may never be able to go back to do it.  Missed opportunities are many times gone forever.  I know for a fact once you get into the work world and are trying to make ends meet and get caught in that grind of going to work, coming home tired, going to bed, getting up and going back to work; it is very difficult to change that routine and go back and do college.

Even if you are just a mediocre student in high school you may excel in college because now you are doing something that tends to be more in your own behalf.  College is nothing like high school as you are totally on your own.  You decide what courses to take and when, you decide when to eat and when to recreate – all things decided for you in high school.  You not only work on getting a degree in college, you can also work on becoming an adult.  I wish you luck and whatever you decide to do I hope you can look back on it in years to come and feel like you made a good decision.

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The white husband

Entries I have posted on here thus far have focused on the black lover and the white woman in interracial relationships. Although they are key, I don’t want to overlook the white husband (or white boyfriend if the two are not married).

These pictures provided by AJ reminded me of that fact. I especially like the one to the right.

As you see, the black lover’s cock is buried deep in the blonde wife’s pussy. I like the expression on her face. He obviously is filling her as her white man never did. Meanwhile, her husband holds her face and looks lovingly at her.

Most white husbands enjoy seeing their wives fucked by black men. They see the woman achieving sexual pleasure the white man’s dick could never provide.

Frankly, the white guys get off watching. Notice in the picture to the right how the husband strokes his dick while a strong black man fucks the wife’s pussy. White husbands usually come while watching their wives being fucked. Even if they are restrained so they can’t touch their dicks, the small white shaft will eventually dribble its watery cum from arousal.

This last picture shows another happy hubby in the background. Notice the smile on his face as a strong black man fucks his wife doggy style. Her face shows how intensely she feels the BBC action inside her. If I’m not mistaken, hubby’s right hand is keeping his own dick happy.

In many cases, another pleasure for the white husband is cleaning the black man’s thick cum from his wife’s pussy. Many hubbies become quite adept at licking their wives’ cunts clean.

Thanks again to A.J. for these photographs.

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Twitter Update

Well, I finally got an answer from Twitter, and got my account un-suspended.

It seems that the problem was the avatar I had, my profile picture on Twitter.  It showed me and two girlfriends in the spa pool, after a couple of vodka cocktails, and you could see a nipple.  Apparently it was pornographic.

It was my nipple, and I move in circles that don’t find nudity offensive, so I didn’t think twice about posting the picture.  There are avatars on Twitter that are far more explicit (think wet camel toe pictures) than mine was, but as there was clothing covering the offending body part, they are deemed to be ok.

The thing that really gets my goat, is that their immediate reaction was account suspension, with no explanation, and a convoluted appeals process.  An appeals process that took five days to get a response.  This suspension automatically deletes your whole twitter network.  You lose all of the people you were following, and all of those following you, as well as any subscribed lists.  These are not reinstated with your Twitter account.

A better way to approach it would be to send an email, or even a fucking TWEET!!  After all, they invented that concept didn’t they?

Something along the lines of “Your avatar violates our TOS, please change it within 48 hours or you will be suspended.”  Simple.  And I would have done it, and not lost the whole network.  When you consider that the avatar is a thumbnail, and you would be looking for one nipple in a thumbnail with three people in it, someone worked fucking hard to get offended I think.

Can I put a picture of a giant rubber cock as my avatar do you think?  I will probably play it a bit safer than that though…. Risquè, but not raunchy.

Love,

Chiquita

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No Complaints, Only Moans

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Men Are From Earth, Women are from Earth:Do Studies Show That Gender Has Little Or No Bearing on Personality, Cognition and Leadership?

From American Psychogical Association www.apa.org

The Truth about Gender “Differences”

Mars-Venus sex differences appear to be as mythical as the Man in the Moon. A 2005 analysis of 46 meta-analyses that were conducted during the last two decades of the 20th century underscores that men and women are basically alike in terms of personality, cognitive ability and leadership. Psychologist Janet Shibley Hyde, PhD, of the University of Wisconsin in Madison, discovered that males and females from childhood to adulthood are more alike than different on most psychological variables, resulting in what she calls a gender similarities hypothesis. Using meta-analytical techniques that revolutionized the study of gender differences starting in the 1980s, she analyzed how prior research assessed the impact of gender on many psychological traits and abilities, including cognitive abilities, verbal and nonverbal communication, aggression, leadership, self-esteem, moral reasoning and motor behaviors.

Hyde observed that across the dozens of studies, consistent with the gender similarities hypothesis, gender differences had either no or a very small effect on most of the psychological variables examined. Only a few main differences appeared: Compared with women, men could throw farther, were more physically aggressive, masturbated more, and held more positive attitudes about sex in uncommitted relationships.

Furthermore, Hyde found that gender differences seem to depend on the context in which they were measured. In studies designed to eliminate gender norms, researchers demonstrated that gender roles and social context strongly determined a person’s actions. For example, after participants in one experiment were told that they would not be identified as male or female, nor did they wear any identification, none conformed to stereotypes about their sex when given the chance to be aggressive. In fact, they did the opposite of what would be expected – women were more aggressive and men were more passive.

Finally, Hyde’s 2005 report looked into the developmental course of possible gender differences – how any apparent gap may open or close over time. The analysis presented evidence that gender differences fluctuate with age, growing smaller or larger at different times in the life span. This fluctuation indicates again that any differences are not stable.

Learning Gender-Difference Myths

Media depictions of men and women as fundamentally “different” appear to perpetuate misconceptions – despite the lack of evidence. The resulting “urban legends” of gender difference can affect men and women at work and at home, as parents and as partners. As an example, workplace studies show that women who go against the caring, nurturing feminine stereotype may pay dearly for it when being hired or evaluated. And when it comes to personal relationships, best-selling books and popular magazines often claim that women and men don’t get along because they communicate too differently. Hyde suggests instead that men and women stop talking prematurely because they have been led to believe that they can’t change supposedly “innate” sex-based traits.

Hyde has observed that children also suffer the consequences of exaggerated claims of gender difference — for example, the widespread belief that boys are better than girls in math. However, according to her meta-analysis, boys and girls perform equally well in math until high school, at which point boys do gain a small advantage. That may not reflect biology as much as social expectations, many psychologists believe. For example, the original Teen Talk Barbie ™, before she was pulled from the market after consumer protest, said, “Math class is tough.”

As a result of stereotyped thinking, mathematically talented elementary-school girls may be overlooked by parents who have lower expectations for a daughter’s success in math. Hyde cites prior research showing that parents’ expectations of their children’s success in math relate strongly to the children’s self-confidence and performance.

Moving Past Myth

Hyde and her colleagues hope that people use the consistent evidence that males and females are basically alike to alleviate misunderstanding and correct unequal treatment. Hyde is far from alone in her observation that the clear misrepresentation of sex differences, given the lack of evidence, harms men and women of all ages. In a September 2005 press release on her research issued by the American Psychological Association (APA), she said, “The claims [of gender difference] can hurt women’s opportunities in the workplace, dissuade couples from trying to resolve conflict and communication problems and cause unnecessary obstacles that hurt children and adolescents’ self-esteem.”

Psychologist Diane Halpern, PhD, a professor at Claremont College and past-president (2005) of the American Psychological Association, points out that even where there are patterns of cognitive differences between males and females, “differences are not deficiencies.” She continues, “Even when differences are found, we cannot conclude that they are immutable because the continuous interplay of biological and environmental influences can change the size and direction of the effects some time in the future.”

The differences that are supported by the evidence cause concern, she believes, because they are sometimes used to support prejudicial beliefs and discriminatory actions against girls and women. She suggests that anyone reading about gender differences consider whether the size of the differences are large enough to be meaningful, recognize that biological and environmental variables interact and influence one other, and remember that the conclusions that we accept today could change in the future.

Cited Research

Archer, J. (2004). Sex differences in aggression in real-world settings: A meta-analytic review. Review of General Psychology, 8, 291-322.

Barnett, R. & Rivers, C. (2004). Same difference: How gender myths are hurting our relationships, our children, and our jobs. New York: Basic Books.

Eaton, W. O., & Enns, L. R. (1986). Sex differences in human motor activity level. Psychological Bulletin, 100, 19-28.

Feingold, A. (1994). Gender differences in personality: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 116, 429-456.

Halpern, D. F. (2000). Sex Differences in Cognitive Abilities (3rd Edition). Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum, Associates, Inc. Publishers.

Halpern, D. F. (2004). A cognitive-process taxonomy for sex differences in cognitive abilities. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 13 (4), 135-139.

Hyde, J. S., Fennema, E., & Lamon, S. (1990). Gender differences in mathematics performance: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 107, 139-155.

Hyde, J. S. (2005). The Gender Similarities Hypothesis. American Psychologist, Vol. 60, No. 6.

Leaper, C. & Smith, T. E. (2004). A meta-analytic review of gender variations in children’s language use: Talkativeness, affiliative speech, and assertive speech. Developmental Psychology, 40, 993-1027.

Oliver, M. B. & Hyde, J. S. (1993). Gender differences in sexuality: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 114, 29-51.

Spencer, S. J., Steele, C. M. & Quinn, D. M. (1999). Stereotype threat and women’s math performance. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 35, 4-28.

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Twitter. Again.

For those of you that follow our Twitter feeds, please let me apologise.  We have been suspended by Twitter, automatically, for building up too large a network of people we are following, too quickly.  I did this, as you may recall from a previous post, because Twitter dumped all of my followers, all of the people I was following, and all of my lists.

When that happens, without notification or justification, the first thing you try and do is rebuild what you have lost.  Apparently if you do this too quickly, you are in violation of shitters terms of service.

Allow me a little rant here if you will.  That is one of the problems with signing up to a service with a EULA, rather than purchasing a product that you own.  I will NEVER buy another windows enabled computer for that very reason.  I use Ubuntu, and I can use what I like, and change what I don’t.

Twitter uses the very worst possible model for enforcing it’s arcane terms of service.  First, if it had checked before suspending me, it would have seen that each tweet was individual, and not spam.  Second, it would have seen that the people I was following were in the same industry as me.  The adult Industry.  I network with other sex toy suppliers, with strippers, with escorts, with adult websites.  If individuals follow me, then I follow them back, as I see that as a courtesy.

Then, when you are suspended, they make it as hard as possible to contact them, and to appeal their process.  I have now been waiting THREE DAYS for an acknowledgement that I have appealed their unjust suspension.

A few of my tweets are raunchy, and my profile pic shows a nipple.  I don’t think these are the cause, as I have never had any complaints (Nor any moans…), and there are others that use twitter who are far more explicit than I.

So, no Twitter at the moment.  I recently called the administrators of Twitter the “uncontactable Twitter Gods.”  Nothing I have seen so far changes that assessment.

I would have thought that the first rule of business would be, “Don’t fuck off the people using your service.”

Sure, get rid of spam bots, but identify them accurately.   On Twitter, this isn’t actually that hard.  Here’s a clue:  They run multiple names, so that they can re-tweet their own messages.  They only tweet advertisements.  They never reply to a direct message.

That’s a good starting point.

Twitter has it’s uses, but the numbers are already on the decline.  Let’s see if they can maintain their relevance.

A good place to start is not abusing their loyal customers.

Love Chiquita

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I can’t really put my tagline of  “No Complaints, Only Moans”  here can I ?  ‘Cos this is just one big complaint!!

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Letter To Hasbro About My Idea For An Adult Line Of Transformers

To whom it may concern; I am writing this to share my idea for a new line of Transformers. I came up with this idea while thinking about the fact that the original Transformers generation is well into their adulthood now. So, why not make a special line of Transformers strictly for Adults? Some ideas are Optimus Vibe a robot who transforms into a Vibrator complete with Clitoris grip. Another is named Plugatron the leader of the Decepticons in this line, he would transform into a butt plug. The ideas are endless. Paddlobot for the S&M crowd, or even a five robot set modeled after the Constuctocons called Dilodocusmaximus. Five different robots that would transform into different parts of one giant dildo, One could vibrate, one could spin, one would have jack hammer action, another could be a small attachment to provide anal stimulation, and another could provide speed control. The XXX business is a 50 billion dollar a year business, many of these customers I’m sure happen to be huge Transformers fans. I think this product would bring joy and happiness to thousands of adults who grew up with Transformers. Sincerely Edaurdo Jones

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Neverland Blues

I’ve been thinking lately about that saying from the Bible, ya know, the one that everyone feels is necessary to quote at weddings and other transitionary periods in a person’s life:

“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:110).”

It’s supposed to signify the importance of continued maturity as we reach the necessary hurdles in life.  Yet I can’t help but wonder if, in fact, it represents something inherently backwards in Western thought.

I remember how I spoke/understood/thought as a child.  And yes, it was significantly different from the way I process information in my adult life.  Back then, I spoke without fear.  I understood the world I was confronted with from eyes that were relatively unspoiled by prejudices and the politically correct.  I thought about things from the midst of infinite promise, untainted by the adult notions of “cynicism” and “despair.”  I was irrepressibly strong.

Maybe I just suffer from Peter Pan Syndrome, but sometimes I think the modern obsession with “growing up” in fact prevents our society from making significant progress.  I’m not saying you should run home and pull out your TMNT action figures.  But just maybe, if we all took a second now and then to remember how we felt back when “snow” was a synonym for “fun” instead of “stress,” we might find an unexpected inner strength, childlike in size, but Herculean in possibilities.

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